Dont be a Social Website Statistic

The United States generated $957 million in revenue in 2008 from online dating services. The U.S. online dating market increased spending to $932 million in 2011. A social networking service is an online service, platform, or site that focuses on facilitating the building of social networks or social relations among people who, for example, share interests, activities, backgrounds, or real-life connections. A social network service consists of a representation of each user (often a profile), his/her social links, and a variety of additional services. Most social network services are web-based and provide means for users to interact over the Internet, such as e-mail and instant messaging.  Put simply, social networking is a way for one person to meet up with other people on the net. People use social networking sites for meeting new friends, finding old friends, or locating people who have the same problems or interests they have, called niche networking.

More and more relationships and friendships are being formed online and then carried to an offline setting. Psychologist and University of Hamburg professor Erich H. Witte says that relationships which start online are much more likely to succeed. Witte has said that in less than 10 years, online dating will be the predominant way for people to start a relationship.   One online dating site claims that 2% of all marriages begin at its site, the equivalent of 236 marriages a day. Other sites claim 1 in 5 relationships begin online.

Social networking sites play a vital role in this area as well. Being able to meet someone as a “friend” and see what common interests you share and how you have built up your friend base and “likes” you can truly see a fuller picture of the person you are talking with. Online Dating

Social networking and relationships tend to go hand in hand in this generation.  People meet online EVERYDAY, B.  I remember when meeting someone online was once looked down upon.  Now online dating is pretty much universally accepted and expected.  I remember I met a female once online and brought her around my parents after we had been dating for several months.  Anybody that knows my Pops knows he will talk your head off and ask you a million questions.  So I brought this female friend of mine to dinner one Saturday evening and my Pops was drilling her, all out of fun though.  So he asks the forbidden question I was trying to avoid answering all day….”where did you meet my son at?”  Mannnnnn my heart started pumping hard and I felt little sweat beads popping up on my forehead.  It had to be at least ten people in the room and they were all having their own conversation but as soon as he asked that question the whole room got quiet and all eyes were on us.  I swear you could hear two ants doing the oochie coochie in the dining room it was so quiet.  With a smile on her face and with no shame she softly says, “Facebook.”  I turned to look out the window because I didn’t want to see the reaction on everybody’s face.   After she said it there was about another 5 seconds of pure silence and with mad enthusiasm my Pops reply, “dang Ryan, you be meeting them everywhere don’t you?”  Now at this point I don’t know which is worse, the fact that everybody knew I met her on Facebook or the fact that my Pops make it seem like I meet a ton of women in front of the woman I was dating.  To my surprise I was not judged, now they may have said something amongst each other to where I couldn’t hear it but no one pulled me to the side and asked me what I was doing meeting women online.  At this point I realized if my older and traditional family members didn’t have a problem with online dating then nobody should.

Social websites have probably ruined more relationships than it has started.  Hell it pretty much ruined one of mine.  At least the true colors and capabilities of that individual were shown but that’s a totally different story.  Some folks can’t deal with their significant other talking to individuals of the opposite sex, liking statuses and/or pictures, or leaving compliments.  Honestly, I can see how some wouldn’t like it but at the same time I feel it’s a little overboard especially if it’s harmless.  Maybe they’re just jealous or insecure…who knows?  Maybe pass relationships or YOU made them insecure.  If you get to the point were you’re hacking into your significant others account just to read messages they have received/sent or actually sending messages to folks you’ve seen your mate communicating  with then I’d recommend you end that relationship.  Why?  Because the trust isn’t there anymore and from my experiences once the trust is gone the relationship is on a downhill spiral and things are only going to get worse…TRUST ME!!!  I’d advise you to get out before anyone gets hurt even worse.  Now if you plan on ending that said relationship and just looking for ammo to do it then by all means have at it but I always say don’t look for what you don’t want to find.

Social sites can be a great way to meet someone especially if you aren’t a socialite and rarely have time to go out and meet new people.  Some folks just feel more comfortable in front of their keyboard and I don’t consider them weird because there are plenty more just like them.  Whatever works for you, I say have at it.  My only suggestion is to be careful to not let it ruin your relationship by any means necessary even if that means you have to delete accounts.

But I’m sleep tho…